KENYA FEEL WHY:
He's NOT My Type
First dates always have the potential to be disastrous. You never know what to expect. It's easier if the guy is a sight for sore eyes, but he might also be the biggest a-hole you've ever met.
First dates are all about figuring out if he's meant for you. If you're lucky the date will go perfectly, and you'll be on your way to date number 2. If luck isn't on your side, you'll probably be SOS texting your girlfriend to come save you.
So why are first dates such a disaster? Are you blinded by looks? Charm? Sex appeal? Or maybe you simply just aren't asking the right questions. Here's a few first date questions that you should be asking to determine whether he's Mr. Right or Mr. Oh-So-Wrong.
1. What are the three most important things in your life?
Paul Hudson, a writer at Elitedaily, says this is the quickest way to find out what type of person you're dealing with. It is understood that you can tell a lot about a person based upon what they think is important.
If a guy is family-oriented he would obviously let it be known that family is indeed important to him. But, he might also neglect to mention his family, and say money instead. That alone should let you know run for the heels, girl!
2. What is your biggest goal in life?
By this age we should be dating seriously, and not casually. At this time we consider potential boyfriends to eventually become life partners. I mean I don't really know anyone dating and expecting it not to last. Therefore, it is important know what your date plans on accomplishing in the future.
You wouldn't want to date someone with no dreams or goals now would you?
3. Where do you plan to live (in the future) ?
This question may seem a little outlandish, but trust me you'll be glad you asked. If you're in college like me, it's important to know (before you jump into anything) where your potential mate plans on settling down to make a new life.
After college plans are really crucial and important so it's best to get that conversation out the way early on. You don't want to end up 9 months deep in a relationship only to find out he or she plans on moving across the country upon completing their degree.
And, I've learned the hard way that not everyone has the same plans as you. I've been placed in many situations where a guy I've been interested in does not want to relocate to the same city as me. Not only that, but they didn't want to live in a city at all. (I'm from the country, and sadly some people enjoy the quiet country life.)
These are just a few icebreaker questions that I have found to be very beneficial in separating the right guy from the wrong one. Eharmony has a ton of first date questions if you wish to check them out to keep the conversation going!
As always,
1. What are the three most important things in your life?
Paul Hudson, a writer at Elitedaily, says this is the quickest way to find out what type of person you're dealing with. It is understood that you can tell a lot about a person based upon what they think is important.
If a guy is family-oriented he would obviously let it be known that family is indeed important to him. But, he might also neglect to mention his family, and say money instead. That alone should let you know run for the heels, girl!
2. What is your biggest goal in life?
By this age we should be dating seriously, and not casually. At this time we consider potential boyfriends to eventually become life partners. I mean I don't really know anyone dating and expecting it not to last. Therefore, it is important know what your date plans on accomplishing in the future.
You wouldn't want to date someone with no dreams or goals now would you?
3. Where do you plan to live (in the future) ?
This question may seem a little outlandish, but trust me you'll be glad you asked. If you're in college like me, it's important to know (before you jump into anything) where your potential mate plans on settling down to make a new life.
After college plans are really crucial and important so it's best to get that conversation out the way early on. You don't want to end up 9 months deep in a relationship only to find out he or she plans on moving across the country upon completing their degree.
And, I've learned the hard way that not everyone has the same plans as you. I've been placed in many situations where a guy I've been interested in does not want to relocate to the same city as me. Not only that, but they didn't want to live in a city at all. (I'm from the country, and sadly some people enjoy the quiet country life.)
These are just a few icebreaker questions that I have found to be very beneficial in separating the right guy from the wrong one. Eharmony has a ton of first date questions if you wish to check them out to keep the conversation going!
As always,
stay classy, stay true
xoKenya
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