KENYA FEEL WHY Your Business is YOUR Business

KENYA FEEL WHY:

Your Business is YOUR Business 

Hey ladies! I hope you all are having a FABULOUS Monday. I know I am. I received some great news today that has me soo excited for my future. I originally wasn't going to post this blog until later in the week, because between work & school I am completely SWAMPED. But, since I was having such a great morning I decided to go ahead and give you all a lil some some. Lol . 

So let's get down to business. Your business is exactly that, YOUR business. Do y'all remember the childhood game telephone? You'd all sit in a circle and one person comes up with a saying in their head, they whisper it to the person next to them, and then so on and so forth. By the time it reaches the last person in the circle, they must repeat the phrase out loud. Whatever they say is almost NEVER anywhere remotely close to what was said in the beginning. Who knew such an innocent childhood game would apply to everyday adult situations? 

Life is exactly like a game of telephone. You tell someone something about yourself, and then they repeat it to someone else. The person they tell repeats it to someone else, and before you know it the entire school knows your business. Only, the story has changed two or three times by the time it makes it back to you. This is one of the many consequences of telling people things that you were better off keeping to yourself. 


Very seldom do we have friends that keep things to themselves. Keeping secrets are like a can of biscuits under pressure. I know that was a really crazy analogy, but it's true. When most people hear a secret, they are just dying to burst open and tell someone else. It's like an itch you can't scratch. Eventually, they'll get tired of holding it in, and go blab to someone. The person they told will have the same affliction, they'll want to tell someone as soon as they hear it. If you don't want something getting out the best thing you can do is keep it to yourself!

Head down to your local Walmart, and pick up a journal if you have to. Journaling is a great way to let out your frustrations. Write down any secrets, or whatever may be troubling you, inside your journal. That book will become your bestfriend, and you'll see how much easier it is to make it through the day. And, most importantly, you won't have to worry about your trusty journal ever spilling any of your deepest, darkest secrets. Unless of course someone comes in and steals it, then you're out of luck. 

But, seriously find someone/something else to confide in other than those around you. Yes, friends have pretty good advice sometimes, but the truth is some may have a hard time keeping things to themselves. Confide in God, and talk to him when you find yourself needing someone to talk to. God knows your problems before you cast them to him, and he's just waiting on you to acknowledge them before he leads you to a solution. He will never betray your trust.  

Love always,

xoKenya 

KENYA FEEL WHY: It's Important to Know Your Worth

KENYA FEEL WHY: 

It's Important to Know Your Worth 

It's like basic Economics. Consider the Law of Increasing Opportunity Cost; the more you get of something, the less valuable it becomes. To further explain this, imagine that you have 10 tubes of your favorite MAC lipsticks, and your best friend has 10 MAC eye shadows. In the beginning you are probably willing to give her 3 lipsticks for 2 eye shadows. Then you may be willing to give up only 2 lipsticks for another 2 eye shadows. Along the way you realize the eye shadows aren't as valuable as you thought they were in the beginning. As you get more of something, it becomes less valuable. 

It works the same way with sex. A guy will be willing to work twice as hard for a woman he knows isn't spreading her legs to any & every guy out there. But, he won't be willing to work as hard for a woman that is. The more used up you become, the less valuable you are seen in others' eyes. But you are valuable. That's why I'm stressing to you to know your worth.

Everyone makes mistakes. Maybe you feel as if your mistakes are much more worse than others', but believe me they are not. There are always second chances in life, and this is yours. Consider the storm I spoke about in my last entry. You not knowing your worth was one of your storms. Sometimes it takes losing yourself to find yourself. Now you know that you are worthy and you won't allow yourself to fall down the same path again.  

When you know your worth people will respect you. This not only applies inside the bedroom, but outside of it as well. When you know your worth people will hold you to a higher standard. They will no longer use you, disrespect you, or take advantage of you, all because YOU will no longer allow them to. Once you realize that you are in control of your life everything else will fall into place. 

Often times we find ourselves conforming to society, or doing things other people do just to fit in. When in reality, we've had the power all along. You are able to set the standard of what's cool and what's not cool. Once you look within yourself and figure out who and what God wants you to be, then you'll find happiness. You won't need others to validate you, because you will be shamelessly confident in your own skin. 

Don't go looking for love in all the wrong places. Know what you will and will not tolerate. Don't settle for less because you feel as if you have to do so. Set standards and accept men who live up to them. Don't rush into anything, you have the rest of your life to find love. And when the time is right God will send you someone that's for you. 

Remember, everything starts with YOU. You are in control of your life. Love yourself and know that YOU ARE WORTHY. 

xoxoKenya

KENYA FEEL WHY: It's Important to Embrace Your Struggle

KENYA FEEL WHY: It's Important to Embrace your Struggle? 

Often times we are placed in situations and we do not understand why. We feel as if our backs are against the wall, and we're in so deep that we cannot see a way out. It is completely normal to feel this way. But, what we must understand is that our current situation is not our final situation. We're faced with these problems because God is shaping and molding us into who he wants us to be. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, you just can't see it yet. 

Think of your problems as a storm. When it first begins raining you think, "Oh Lord, it's going to storm forever." But, as the storm progresses it gets worse. Once you find yourself in the middle of the storm, you think there's no way out because it's at it's absolute worse. See you may not be able to see the sun shining through the clouds during this time, but you know it is there. As the storm continues, it begins to die down, and you soon start to see the rays of sunshine coming through the clouds so you know it's almost over. Eventually, you think back on the storm and say, "that wasn't so bad" and you feel better knowing you weathered the storm. 

Life is full of storms. Some storms may be stronger than others, but no matter the size of them you will always make it through. Know that God will not put more on you than you can bare. And also understand that everything in life is temporary. Though it may seem as if you're going through the worst time of you life right now, know that you're not. Everything gets better in due time. BUT, you also have to work. God doesn't sit back and do all the work alone. He expects us, as his children, to put forth some effort and meet him halfway, he'll do the rest. 

Remember that your thoughts control your life. If you find yourself consumed with negative thoughts, you will lead a negative life. I cannot stress enough about how much being positive coincides with having a happy life. If you speak positivity into your life, positive things will happen. Speak prosperity into your life and you will be prosperous. 

Your current sufferings are nothing compared to the size of the blessings coming your way. The most important thing I want you to understand from this is: the worst times of your life are also the best times of your life, because they didn't break you, they made you. Know that you came out of this stronger than you went in. 

Write down 3 of your favorite (inspirational) quotes and recite them each morning when you wake, and each night before you sleep. Throughout your day speak positivity into your life. Whatever you want to see happen in your life, speak it into existence throughout the day. 

Your struggle ENDS with YOU! 

xoxoKenya